Deciding to file for divorce is not easy, and you may still feel confused as you begin the process. This is incredibly normal as most people go through bouts of uncertainty during the divorce process. It does not mean that you made the wrong decision, though.
Psychology Today explains one way to help deal with your feelings is to think about your marriage and remind yourself why you chose to file for divorce.
Situations
There are some things that may happen in your marriage that lead to a divorce. After time passes, you may start to wonder if they were enough to lead to ending your marriage. In most cases, you made the right choice.
One example is if your partner had an affair. It is often difficult to move past the feelings of betrayal. If you have lingering resentment, then the chances are that you will not be able to overcome those feelings and your marriage would suffer if you tried to make it work.
Another example is if you were in an abusive situation. You may start to fall into the pattern that many abused people do and think things will be better now if you go back. It is best to stay the course and end your marriage. The abuse will not quit until your partner changes, which is something that takes a lot of time and help.
Growth
One of the top reasons why people divorce is that they have grown apart. They may have different goals in life now than they did when they first married. If you feel like you no longer have a connection to your partner or that you do not have a desire to be with him or her, then divorce is probably the answer. Even if you do not fight and you generally get along, you will eventually start to feel miserable staying together if you have no desire to do so.
