As a parent who will soon go through divorce, you look out for your child above all else. No parent wants to do anything that will bring their child suffering or pain. But unfortunately, you still need to break news of the upcoming split.
One of the best ways to mitigate potential damage is by carefully choosing when you will drop said news. But how do you know if now is the right time?
Do not rush into this conversation
According to Psychology Today, there is no right time to tell your child about a split. But you can still plan your timing well and maximize the possibility of doing damage control. Experts say that you should not rush into this discussion without a plan in place, first. You need to sit down and discuss the specifics with your co-parent. Brainstorm what questions your child may ask. Decide what information you will share and what you will keep to yourself. Always make these plans together; never tackle these conversations one-on-one.
Do not keep putting it off
But you should not wait too long to break the news, either. Parents understandably hesitate when the time comes. After all, you want to give your child as much time to enjoy a normal life as possible. But they do not need this. What they need is time to come to terms with the changes they may deal with in the near future.
No matter when you break the news, presentation is key. You and your co-parent should project a strong and unified front. This will keep your child from feeling like they have nothing familiar and stable to rely on. It can greatly help with the coping process.